THINGS THAT MATTER MOST

“If you want to bring happiness to the whole world, go home and love your family.” – Mother Teresa

Have you ever listened to a persons eulogy being read? Or paying tribute to a person who passed on? You listen as a person’s life is read to you, how the person lived since the day they were born, the legacy they have left behind or the role model and how they impacted the society.

Sometimes back I attended a burial ceremony of a certain wealthy man in our neighborhood. The man was filthy rich. He had four successful companies, big cars, large acres of land, he would fly in and out of the country like no ones business, just name it.

As usual the eulogy had the normal main sections; birth, education, church, work and marriage. It clearly stated he had one wife and the number of children he had left behind and how he loved his family. He was a family man. But, nowhere did it mention the number of businesses or cars he had left, the acres of land, or the number of countries he had gone to!

What does this show us? About the things that matters most. That at the end of it all what matters is our relationship with God and family. And the legacy that is left behind. Would other people wish to live the way we did? Or they would say God help me so that I don’t live like so and so.

We may not have everything in this world, but having a family that you can go home to after a hard day, who will be there whether you are broke or not, is surely important and shouldn’t be taken for granted. Let them know you love them. We shouldn’t put the things that matter most at the expense of the things that matter least. After all, its all that matters.

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BOOK REVIEW 1

“What really knocks me out is a book that, when you’re all done reading it, you wish the author that wrote it was a terrific friend of yours and you would call him up on the phone whenever you felt like it. That doesn’t happen much though.” – J. D. Salinger.

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Hellos, how are you all doing? I’ve been thinking of doing book reviews for a while from my love of books and well, there is always a starting point! Hope to share with you the most amazing books I come across and the ones you are reading too.

The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari is an interesting non-fiction book that tells the story of  this lawyer who was only concerned about work, money, power and prestige. He collapses in a court room due to a severe heart attack after which his doctor told him to either give up law or give up his life. He had spent so much time chasing the big pleasures of life, forgetting the little ones. He chose his life, sold everything he had including his Ferrari and traveled to India which sort of liberated him.

The book talks about choices, that one’s destiny unfolds according to the choices one makes. This is a book that will make you give some thought to your life, goals and dreams and how your daily habits helps you reach those dreams. It is a recommendation to anyone interested in incorporating routines and habits that can transform your life and help you achieve your dreams.

I like how the book explains on the importance of family and spending time with the people we love. I would give it a rating of 8/10. If you are looking for a book to help you on achieving your goals and your daily routines, you can try out this book.14907752_1091968477568897_24045726_o

Which book changed your life? Please share in the comments section below.

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BE YOUR OWN ‘COMPE’

“Don’t be afraid of being different, be afraid of being the same as everyone else.”

A lot of times we compare ourselves with others, I have also, countless times. And yes, we are humans. A colleague gets a promotion at work and that completely ruins your day. “Is he/she better than me? How comes am not the one?” Such questions occupy your mind, and when you get the news you give the best “fake” smile pretending to be happy for them while only God knows how exactly you are feeling.

Someone else gets a new car and you put everything else on hold to get a better one so you can show off to them. Another one moves to a bigger house and you start making plans of how you can match up to them, without considering all the other factors.

This kind of competition is quite unhealthy. It gets worse with time if you allow it. The worst part of this comparison is that you compare the best of others with your weaknesses. And this in most cases leave you feeling bad about yourself. Also wasting your precious energy focusing on other peoples lives other than your own.

Comparison is the thief of joy. It rids you of your peace of mind and happiness. Just commit to growing a little bit every day and learn something new everyday. Do some research and read as much as you can to develop your skills in your profession. It is the little consistent steps you make towards your goals that will lead you there, it takes time and a lot of efforts and of course, praying. The best competition to have is when you are trying your best to do better today than you did yesterday.

Its good to be happy for other people’s success. You may not have succeeded in a certain competition or business and someone else did, well and good. Take the lessons. Not everything is for everyone and that’s okay.

Appreciate the little advancements you are making without comparing to how others are doing. Concentrate more on improving yourself more rather than trying to match up to other people. Focus on your own self growth. Do your own thing. Be your own kind of beautiful!14808908_1085437971555281_216295817_o

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HANG IN THERE

Late in the night and you’re in bed, not sleepy but rather soaking your pillow in tears, they are just flowing and you can’t help but cry some more. Just wondering;

Why you are alive.

How you will ever come out of the debts you are in.

How you’re gonna clear school fees that are ever in arrears.

Why you had to be the one to get that cancer. Why it had to be your close relative or friend.

Why the only person you loved wholeheartedly had to break your heart.

How you will get cash to set up a small business you can call your own.

Why life has always been unfair to you, and listing down all the problems you have, one after another.

Your eyes are quite swollen, because crying has been the norm every other day and your only consolation. You are hurting, feeling broken, you don’t even know how to pray anymore or move on.

Dawn comes, you haven’t closed your eyes even for a little bit. You have to go to work, so you get ready. You are not even sure why you are going to work anyway, but you still have to go. You wash your face with ice cold water, to relieve the swollen eyes. You put on make up nicely, so that no one notices you’ve been crying all night(strength of a woman) and at work you put on your smile, saying “I’m fine” to everyone who says hello. While deep down you are hurting inside.14697242_1073126216119790_1138907004_o

I am here to tell you that no situation is permanent. It doesn’t matter what you’re going through, it shall pass too. Yes you don’t know how or when it will come to an end, but it still will somehow. Just don’t let this pull you down.

Hang in there. Don’t throw in the towel.God’s got your back. You will smile again.

Be encouraged!

#bethankful

Last week on Friday evening as I was going home I had a not so good experience. A ‘bodaboda‘ rider snatched my handbag and ran off, within a splash of a second everything had happened.

There I was, in the middle of the road, wondering how he could possibly do that. My identity card and other important things were in that bag, back to zero I thought or so. Thank heavens my phone was well tucked into my jeans.

This got me thinking, everyday I go to and from work and take it as just a kawaida thing. Yes its normal going to work and back home, but getting there safe is another thing. Many times we do not remember to say thank you for some things such as getting home safe and sound. It doesn’t matter whether you had a good day or a bad one,

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The fact that you did not have a good day isn’t reason enough not to be grateful. The best thing is to look at all the good things you have and you will find so many reasons to be grateful for.

I am grateful that the thief didn’t hurt me at all, documents I will replace again. I thank God that this not-so-good-experience taught me something as well. Not only on appreciating everything, but also on knowing that there are always things to be thankful for if we just look around and on keeping safe too.

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I hope you learnt a thing or two. Keep safe & thanks for reading!

BELIEVE!

If you believe you can, you probably can. If you believe you won’t you most assuredly won’t. Belief is the ignition switch that gets you off the launching pad.” – Denis Waitley.

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A lot of times we get stuck in various things that we want to progress at the pace we want. We work hard to get things that we want to achieve and in most cases it doesn’t come easy. And sometimes, just when you are about to see the light another challenge comes up and hinders you from achieving your objectives. You feel bad about it, which is okay but you have to remained focused towards your goals. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to reach to your goals, the most important thing is to keep believing that you will get there.

Some of these challenges come up to strengthen you for the great future ahead. So one has to learn to be patient and most importantly learn how to encourage yourself and believe you can do it. If you believe, you definitely will. It doesn’t matter how many times you get stuck, do it for you. Believe in yourself and believe you can!

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FAILING FORWARD

“In life, the question is not if you will have problems, but how are you going to deal  with your problems?” – John C. Maxwell.

img_20160912_153805 Many times we do fail or things fail to go as we had expected. Sometimes its due to the mistakes we have made in our journey, the choices we have made or things we didn’t even think would come our way. Things happen, up to a point you feel like not doing anything and just sleeping. The most important thing is to continue fighting and moving on when you feel like not doing it.

At times we are driven by problems, deadlines, or even fear and at some point of trying to make everything right, things go the other way round. Most of the time we don’t see the other side of the story of what that experience is teaching us. There are always lessons that come with it, every situation is always a learning experience. It doesn’t matter if you fail a hundred times, what matters is you move on after a failure and run with the lessons.

Keep reminding yourself why you are doing it and give it your best. It could be in your business, marriage, raising your children, dreams, or whatever that is. And even if you fail again and again don’t ever give up.  Fail and still move forwards. #beinspired

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